Last year I wrote a blog post “Should Christian Women Wear A Head covering or Hijab?” and I have gotten so many comments and emails on this topic and I’d like to share my thoughts on it. I apologize for being so late on this post. Life got in the way and my focus has been elsewhere. But I assure you, I am back and I have been wanting to do this for a long time now. I hope each one of you who reads this, will enjoy it and I hope it teaches us all a lesson.
First off, I experimented with this topic and I decided to wear a Hijab everyday for two weeks. My results were very unexpected and heartbreaking. I am a full-time student and I had to go to my university almost everyday while wearing a head covering. I am also a wife and mother and I had to go shopping, out to eat, Etc. with it on.
I wore my head covering in different ways each day. Sometimes, I’d have my hair showing (mostly my bangs) and other times, I’d wear it how a muslim woman would wear it. I found out that if I put on a headband over my head first, then it would stay on better and not slip off.
The first day that I wore it, was a Monday and I had a full day of classes at my college. I have a couple of good muslim friends and one of them helped me by showing me how to put it on, Etc. As I was walking through the halls and buildings, I noticed some stares, but not many. I think universities are more open-minded than other places.
One of my good classmates, Aya, ran up to me and she said, “Oh My Gosh! Karen- Did you convert?” Aya is from the Middle-East and she too, wears a hijab everyday. I laughed and told her that I did not convert, but I was doing an experiment and she was totally for it! She thought it was a great idea and she seemed excited for me to take on the challenge.
Everything was going great, until I had to go to statistics and the people that would normally talk to me…wouldn’t even look at me. Before I get into too much detail, I want each person who reads this to understand that I am not a muslim and in no way was I acting like one. I wore a cross on my neck, read my bible at school, Etc. I did not change my behavior or attitude- other than the fact that I wore a scarf upon my head.
Later that week, I went to Walmart and BAM! that’s when the stares and negativity really got to me. I’m talking about, I had women look at me intensely and roll their eyes. Some would not stop staring at me. It was like I had a disease and people thought I would infect them. It saddened me because these people had no idea who I was- they had no idea that I worshipped the same God that they pray too at church every Sunday.
I received the same “Walmart” reaction wherever I went. It was horrible and I wanted to take it off. However, these feelings only came out when I was in public. Another thing that I noted, was that men would not look at me like they normally would (not saying they hit on me before or anything). It was as if I was being respected more- at least that is what I chose to believe.
On a spiritual level, I felt so close to God. I wore my covering at home, only when I would pray or study my bible. I really felt like I was in ancient times, covering myself for the one above. It made me not want to take it off.
Many women tell me that they are thinking about covering and they do not know what to do. My response is: Do whatever you feel led to do! It’s as simple as that. If you feel led to cover your head, body, Etc. Then do just that. I promise you that God will rather you cover yourself than expose your precious gifts to the world. You will feel closer to God and you will feel like a Godly woman. If you still have mixed feelings about it, then I suggest to wear it when you pray and then you can wear it out little by little. As long as what you do aligns with the word of God, then I see no harm done.
However- it’s important that we stand out as christians – not as a child of another belief (someone who worships a faulty/artificial/wannabe god). That is why I wore a cross everyday, because I wanted to be noticed as a christian; instead of a muslim girl.
However, this experience taught me the most valuable lesson of them all:
DO NOT JUDGE!!!!
With that I mean, do not judge muslims just because they believe differently than you and I, because I can promise you that the muslim women treated me so much better than the women I went to church with. We shouldn’t judge based on looks, religions, Etc.
(God said that we shouldn’t judge, or we too shall be judged)
Now, we should always discern with the help of the Holy Spirit, but when I speak about judging others….we just should not do it because we do not know a single thing about some of the situations others might be in.
I bet if I would have went up to the man and woman who pointed at me and gave me hateful looks and told them that I was a christian and I kindly reminded them of what scripture says….I think they would have felt ashamed of themselves.
God told us to love one another and to not judge others….THAT is what this challenge taught me.
It really opened my eyes and it taught me to love those who do not believe in the same things that I believe in.
It taught me that I can come closer to God by following his ways and dressing more Godly
One thing that we all need to remember -no matter if you choose to wear a head covering or not:
It’s salvation that saves…not articles of clothing