Where Have I Been?

There is no hiding the fact that I’ve been off this site for a long time. I haven’t posted on this blog in forever it seems…So, what have I been up to?

For one, my husband joined the Army….yes…the Army! He left February 2015 and he attended basic training until July 2016. He was away for five months and I assure you, it felt like 100 years. I will no longer complain about not seeing my spouse for a measly day or two after having gone through that.


Soldier Boy! 


I love the new do! #Haircut  


So what did I do while he was gone? I worked out A LOT (I lost 20 pounds), took care of our daughter, and went to school. That pretty much sums it up…oh! and I was busy writing letters and sending care-packages.


              look at those guns (ha) 

First letter from daddy!!

And you can bet I was counting down the days!


After it was all said and done, it was worth it. The graduation was such an amazing experience and if you’ve ever been to one, you know what i’m talking about.

                           Father and Daughter ……..Father and Son (The photo on the right is my Husband’s dad (Colonel) and Jonathan saluting each other…such a great moment! 

20 Days after graduation, We were leaving LA and heading to his new duty station. We’ve been here for over a year now.

Our journey wasn’t over yet…..3 months later we found out…


We were expecting!!!!

I wanted a boy so,so bad; however, Jonathan wanted another girl….we made a bet and guess who won?


Yep! another Girl



Little Chloe was born on June 2nd at 3:12 am


looks just like her Daddy!!!!

So, that pretty much sums it up! We are an Army family of 4 now 🙂

Christian Woman Wearing a Hijab- What Was It Like?

Last year I wrote a blog post “Should Christian Women Wear A Head covering or Hijab?” and I have gotten so many comments and emails on this topic and I’d like to share my thoughts on it. I apologize for being so late on this post. Life got in the way and my focus has been elsewhere. But I assure you, I am back and I have been wanting to do this for a long time now. I hope each one of you who reads this, will enjoy it and I hope it teaches us all a lesson.

First off, I experimented with this topic and I decided to wear a Hijab everyday for two weeks. My results were very unexpected and heartbreaking. I am a full-time student and I had to go to my university almost everyday while wearing a head covering. I am also a wife and mother and I had to go shopping, out to eat, Etc. with it on.

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I wore my head covering in different ways each day. Sometimes, I’d have my hair showing (mostly my bangs) and other times, I’d wear it how a muslim woman would wear it. I found out that if I put on a headband over my head first, then it would stay on better and not slip off.

The first day that I wore it, was a Monday and I had a full day of classes at my college. I have a couple of good muslim friends and one of them helped me by showing me how to put it on, Etc. As I was walking through the halls and buildings, I noticed some stares, but not many. I think universities are more open-minded than other places.

One of my good classmates, Aya, ran up to me and she said, “Oh My Gosh! Karen- Did you convert?” Aya is from the Middle-East and she too, wears a hijab everyday. I laughed and told her that I did not convert, but I was doing an experiment and she was totally for it! She thought it was a great idea and she seemed excited for me to take on the challenge.

Everything was going great, until I had to go to statistics and the people that would normally talk to me…wouldn’t even look at me. Before I get into too much detail, I want each person who reads this to understand that I am not a muslim and in no way was I acting like one. I wore a cross on my neck, read my bible at school, Etc. I did not change my behavior or attitude- other than the fact that I wore a scarf upon my head.

Later that week, I went to Walmart and BAM! that’s when the stares and negativity really got to me. I’m talking about, I had women look at me intensely and roll their eyes. Some would not stop staring at me. It was like I had a disease and people thought I would infect them. It saddened me because these people had no idea who I was- they had no idea that I worshipped the same God that they pray too at church every Sunday.


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I received the same “Walmart” reaction wherever I went. It was horrible and I wanted to take it off. However, these feelings only came out when I was in public. Another thing that I noted, was that men would not look at me like they normally would (not saying they hit on me before or anything). It was as if I was being respected more- at least that is what I chose to believe.

On a spiritual level, I felt so close to God. I wore my covering at home, only when I would pray or study my bible. I really felt like I was in ancient times, covering myself for the one above. It made me not want to take it off.

Many women tell me that they are thinking about covering and they do not know what to do. My response is: Do whatever you feel led to do! It’s as simple as that. If you feel led to cover your head, body, Etc. Then do just that. I promise you that God will rather you cover yourself than expose your precious gifts to the world. You will feel closer to God and you will feel like a Godly woman. If you still have mixed feelings about it, then I suggest to wear it when you pray and then you can wear it out little by little. As long as what you do aligns with the word of God, then I see no harm done.

However- it’s important that we stand out as christians – not as a child of another belief  (someone who worships a faulty/artificial/wannabe god). That is why I wore a cross everyday, because I wanted to be noticed as a christian; instead of a muslim girl.

However, this experience taught me the most valuable lesson of them all:


With that I mean, do not judge muslims just because they believe differently than you and I, because I can promise you that the muslim women treated me so much better than the women I went to church with. We shouldn’t judge based on looks, religions, Etc.

(God said that we shouldn’t judge, or we too shall be judged)

Now, we should always discern with the help of the Holy Spirit, but when I speak about judging others….we just should not do it because we do not know a single thing about some of the situations others might be in.

I bet if I would have went up to the man and woman who pointed at me and gave me hateful looks and told them that I was a christian and I kindly reminded them of what scripture says….I think they would have felt ashamed of themselves.

God told us to love one another and to not judge others….THAT is what this challenge taught me.

It really opened my eyes and it taught me to love those who do not believe in the same things that I believe in.

It taught me that I can come closer to God by following his ways and dressing more Godly

One thing that we all need to remember -no matter if you choose to wear a head covering or not:

It’s salvation that saves…not articles of clothing

5 Things That I Want My Daughter To Know


In order to love others, you must love yourself first. You should talk to yourself as you would someone you love.  Stop loving the idea of other people loving you and do yourself a favor and cherish your life, mind, body, and soul because you only have one of each and they deserve the best you and this world has to offer. Be somebody that makes you happy. Do not worry what others think because people will always remember you for your faults and failures, but to love yourself…that should be your true goal. Once you learn to love yourself, you will stop putting your self-esteem into the hands of those that show you no love. You are a star and you must shine amongst those who have ever doubted you. Love the person you have become because deep down, you know you fought hard to become her. LOVE YOURSELF AS MUCH AS YOU WANT TO BE LOVED.


This is probably one of the most important “rules” to know and to follow; this ties into confidence. A wise woman once said to not let people’s compliments get to your head and do not let their criticism get to your heart. When we seek out validation from others, we lower our standards. If someone really wants to show or tell you how important you are to them, instead of lowering your standards, they will rise to meet them. Your self-worth depends on you; therefore, do not let the ideas and opinions of others influence your ego. Never waste your feelings on people who do not value them, there is already enough hate in this world and you do not need to manifest it towards yourself. When we seek validation, we are giving our personal power away; for a woman, that is disaster. You’re either pitiful or powerful, you cannot have both…choose to be powerful because that makes a woman the most feared individual on the planet.


When you walk into a room, your stature says everything about you. It tells people that this woman means all business, or perhaps it lets others know that this woman is shy and quiet. The confidence you acquire should radiate out of you just like the sun radiates upon the Earth. Having confidence is the ability to feel beautiful without having to be told (validation). If you look confident, you can pull off anything; conviction and confidence go hand-in-hand; you may only believe in yourself thirty percent of the time, but you should walk and talk like you believe in yourself one hundrend percent of the time. Learn to inhale confidence and exhale doubt and most importantly, remember that confidence is silent, while insecurities are loud.


In life you will go through trials and tribulations. You will be hurt beyond your own threshold, but I tell you, guard your heart from being poisoned and know that it is ok to be selfish when it comes to it. Be careful who you trust, because not everyone is Godly; remember that the devil was once an angel. Discern everything, but do not judge- unless it is righteous judgment. Protect yourself because this world harbors evil in it. Once your heart is corrupt- the foundations you rely on will no longer hold you up. Only God can rebuild what was torn down. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart, everything that you do flows from it.”


Learn to love and welcome constructive criticism. Don’t automatically assume that a person is hating on you when they give negative feedback. Some people actually want to see you succeed and the wisdom and truth that flows through them, can impact your life in such a big way. Criticism doesn’t have to be likable or agreeable, but it is necessary in order to grow and it often reflects the things that are harmful to us…the things that we need to change and let go. Criticism will get you further in life than praise will and it is a crutch to lean on when you are in need of self-improvement. Do not be afraid of it; instead, embrace it!


Quick Message For Those Who Are Hurting & Going Through Trials


If there is anyone out there who is suffering, heartbroken, or perhaps you are going through a trial(s) in life- please know that you can find comfort in Jesus.

This morning I was reading in Hebrews and I wanted to share something with you that “caught my eye.”

Hebrews 4:14-15 says, ” Seeing then that we have a Great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.”

Now Hebrews 4:14 says that we must hold on to our confession. A christian profession (or confession) of faith involves commitment of one’s life, not just a phrase on one’s tongue.

Hebrew 4:15 refers to Jesus as a man that was tempted- he was human, like you and I (but unlike us, He did not sin). This enables Jesus to sympathize with people as their High Priest. Jesus experienced human weariness, disappointment, and intense pain. We can go to Him with everything because we experience nothing that He has not already experienced in even greater measure. Hebrews 2:17 says, “Therefore, in all things He had to be made like His brethren, that He might be a merciful and faithful High Priest in things pertaining to God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people.”

Hebrews 4:16 says, ” Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

This verse (Hebrews 4:16), means that we should come boldly to God- we should not fear being turned away, so we should not omit or hide anything in our prayers. God gives mercy for past failures and God gives grace for present needs.

In hebrew, the word: “help” suggests that Jesus, the Great High Priest, assists and sustains his people in weakness and in difficulty. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, ” My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” God’s grace for personal trials is ever and always able to meet human need. God always allows those who are weak to be channels of His great power.

The Battle of the Sexes & What It Means for Godly Women


Here lately, I have been studying the role of the woman in marriage.

I decided to start with the story of Adam and Eve and while reading the book of Genesis, I came across a verse that explains the creation of “The Battle of the Sexes.”

But first, allow me to explain.

We know that in the beginning, God created Adam and Eve.


Adam and Eve were directly connected to God.

Scripture says, “And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day….”- Genesis 3:8

They could hear God, they could speak with Him, and they were in His presence. They did not have sin in the way of their relationship with the Father- they were able to discern his voice as plain-as-day.

Now we must look at Adam and Eve’s relationship as husband and wife.

Adam and Eve were in perfect harmony. The two were at peace with one another and they  both knew their own roles as husband and wife. Each had unity and they were not ashamed. There was no self-consciousness or anxiety about what the other person thought; husband and wife were perfectly secure with one another. God designed marriage for this.

But because both Adam and Eve fell into temptation and sinned, the connection that they had with God was severed.


Eve did what so many people do now; she revised and then rejected what God said. This sin always produces the same result- separation from God and ultimately death- unless sin is atoned for.

 That is why Today- If men and women do not accept Jesus Christ, they remain disconnected from God. Without Jesus they do not have the Holy Spirit, they will not be able to feel God’s presence, they cannot hear Him speak to them, and they will not reap eternal life. They are completely disconnected from the Lord.

That is where Jesus Christ comes in. He reconnects us to God. He serves as the connection that we once lost. Through Jesus, we are once again, connected and alive. Romans 5:17 says, “For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God’s abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ!”



Because Adam and Eve sinned, Two curses were placed: one on the serpent and one on the ground.

Adam bore the weight of the curse of the ground because he was the head- not only of his wife but of all humankind. With Adam’s sin, humanity’s paradise became a hostile wilderness; the roses grew thorns and the tigers became meat eaters.

The entire world groans for Eden to be re-created.

When Christ returns to rule, life will resume as it was before the curse.

Not only was the ground affected, but due to sin, the relationship of husband and wife was also affected.

Genesis 3:16 says, ” I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception. In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”

The same verse from the NET says, “To the woman he said, “I will greatly increase your labor pains; with pain you will give birth to children. You will want to control your husband, but he will dominate you.” 

And thus, The Battle of the Sexes was created.

Just like the ground lost its peace, so did Adam and Eve- they were not in perfect harmony anymore.

“you will want to control your husband, but he will dominate you.”

Eve’s sin was that she exalted herself above her Creator. She took it upon herself to determine, together with the counsel of the serpent, if God’s law was good or bad, if it was right or wrong. It is just the essence, character, and result of all sin against God. Self-exaltation and pride always result in the desire to dominate and rule.

As you can see, it is in the nature of a woman to want to control her husband, her children, and every aspect of her life.

Let’s look at Ephesians 5:22-24 – “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”


In this verse, Paul is not implying that women are inferior to men, Galatians 3:28 says, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

Instead, Paul is implying the position and the role that the woman should have in marriage.

(Let’s not forget that Paul addresses 9 verses for instruction of the husband- regarding the actions toward his wife. The women are given only 4 verses of instruction.)

So what does this mean for us godly women?

It means, that we have a sinful nature; it means that our flesh wants to be disobedient to God’s word. Look at Eve once more- She revised and rejected what God said.

Women in Christ- learn from Eve’s mistake and fight the flesh- because we all know that the flesh is weak.

If we want to make the Lord happy, then we are to submit to our husbands.

The world says the exact opposite, but we are not of the world- we are of God.

By submitting to our husbands, we are serving the Lord and carrying out his will for our lives.

We were created for man. We were created to be helpers to our husbands and we were put on Earth to make their life easier. WE ARE CREATED FOR A PURPOSE! 

Genesis 2:18 says, ” And the Lord God said, ‘ It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him’.”

Adam’s aloneness was not good (A contrast to the rest of creation which was considered “good”.)

As women, we should be excited about this.

Our husbands need us.

(My husband needs ME)

God did not just say,”oh ok, I guess you can do it on your own Adam.”No! instead God said, “it is not good for man to be alone.” – so he created him a comparable helper.

We are to respect, love, and be there for our husbands. Next to Christ, we are our husband’s refuge.

God’s design is so amazing and we need to accept it and respect it.

 The world says that there is a major problem of,”The Battle of the Sexes”, but God says, “NO” male and female are both equal, but each of you have purpose.

I am not a victim.

I am a daughter of the most high God.

I am a wife and a mother and I have purpose! I have a position in life and I am choosing to embrace it.

“A christian woman- one who proudly wears the badge of womanhood given by her Father- must resolve to go against the tide. She must stand for what she believes based on her confidence in the One who has delivered eternal truth to her in writing. She must return to God’s design and definition for women and then joyfully embrace, accept, and experience its blessings.
You, God’s woman, are designed both strong and vulnerable. Powerful yet tender. More than able yet willing to yield. You are smart, wise, capable, equal in worth, and secure in yourself as you relate to others yet content in your God-given role. You are a paradox- a potent mixture that surprises with your controlled energy, who inspires and entices by your mysterious grace, whose lifestyle causes others to reconsider and refocus their presuppositions, drawing them toward the God who makes a woman so rich, deep, and captivating. ” – Priscilla Shirer “The Resolution for Women”

Being A Good Person Alone, Will NOT Get You Into Heaven

I invited my father to church last Sunday and he turned down my offer, just like every week. But still, I continue to ask him if he’d like to go each and every week, because I have hope.

This week; however, my father and I got into a discussion about church and Jesus.

I said, “Dad, before football season starts, you should come to church with me, it’d be fun.” (I knew once football season started, there is no chance that he’d go)

He laughed and kindly stated that he doesn’t have to go to church to believe and worship God.

And you know what? He’s right

A person doesn’t have to go to church to pray or believe in God, but as Christians, we should go for instruction and that is exactly what I told him.

My father said, “I am a good person, I’m going to heaven.”


I looked at him and quoted  Matthew 7:21-23

“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, you practices lawlessness.”

I think a lot of Christians and people think that they will get into Heaven just because they believe in Jesus, but Matthew 7:21 says “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of Heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in Heaven.

So you see, we must not only accept Jesus Christ as our personal savior, but we must also  live our lives carrying out God’s will. 

1 John 2:6 says, “He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.”

Matthew 5:48 says, “Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.”

Matthew 16:24, Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.”

Ephesians 5:1-2 “Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.”

Luke 6:40 “A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone who is perfectly trained will be like his teacher.”

1 Peter 2:21-25 says, For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps: “Who committed no sin, Nor was deceit found in His mouth”; who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously; who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness— by whose stripes you were healed. For you were like sheep going astray, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.


Many Christians are deceived. Scripture says–> Therefore the Lord said: “Inasmuch as these people draw near with their mouths And honor Me with their lips, But have removed their hearts far from Me, And their fear toward Me is taught by the commandment of men (Isaiah 29:13).

Though “we” profess with our mouths that we love Jesus, we have removed our hearts far from him.

Being a follower of Christ, means that we lay down our own lives to live for him. We lay down our own desires for God’s desires and we pick up our cross and follow Jesus.


Our whole existence is the conformity of Jesus Christ. How can we call ourselves christians (meaning= followers of Jesus Christ) and not walk as he walked?

We live how we want to and we expect to get into Heaven???

I’m afraid to tell those that do this, but good works do not get us into God’s Kingdom. He simply stated that we are to do the “Will of the Father Who Is In Heaven”.

What a shame it would be if we live our lives according to our own desirers and flesh, thinking that we are going to end up in paradise. Then when we stand before God, He says, “I NEVER KNEW YOU, depart from me you who practice lawlessness.”

To me, that is the scariest thing imaginable.

It is one of my greatest fears –

The fear of letting God down.

But God has not given me a spirit of fear. He assures all of us that if we abide in him, we are going to Heaven. (Romans 10:8-11)

We should live a righteous, Holy life, according to his word and his will. Allow the Holy spirit to guide you and learn to discern God’s voice. Pray for a sound mind and wisdom. Open your bibles and start reading and ask God for revelation through his word.

God Bless


Young and Married


When I first met my husband, I was 16 years old.

A mature 16-year old, if I may add.

We met at a restaurant we both worked at and instantly became good friends.

Jonathan, my husband, was the one person that I could really talk to. After closing hours, he would stay after work and just listen to be babble and talk about life, video games, work, school, Etc.

and he never complained.

I was in love with him for so, so long. Long before I even realized it myself.

Of course there is way more to the story

 Long story short, I ended up marrying Jonathan when I was only 18 years old.

My family scolded me and told me that it would be the “biggest mistake of my life,” but I didn’t listen…I was in love.


As I sit here today, I realize that I’ve been married for almost 4 years now (been together 6 years) and I wouldn’t change the decision I made on August 21,2010 for anything.

I know that 4 years isn’t really that long, but for a young couple- I think it is an accomplishment.

I’ve seen many of my friends from high school get married after I did and now they are divorced; and I think that is very sad. I think, “what can be so bad, that you are forced to leave you husband or wife- someone you made a commitment and vow to”?


Before Jonathan and I got married, we went through marriage counseling and we talked about how children with divorced parents, statistically speaking, will have a higher chance of getting a divorce themselves.

My parents were divorced…in fact, they were married when they had my brother,then they got a divorce, and afterward, they had me….So technically, I was born out of wedlock.

And this fact upset me.

I felt like I was being judged by society, that just because my parents were divorced, my marriage wasn’t going to last either….and right then and there, I promised myself that I would never get a divorce….no matter what.


Jonathan and I have been through a lot.

We’ve battled several different spirits of others and of ourselves.

The greatest advice that I ever received regarding marriage is as follows:


Whatever we may go through as a couple, I know that we can get through it as long as we have forgiveness towards one another.

I am a firm believer that couples can survive anything through repentance and forgiveness.

Why repentance? 

Repentance means to repent and turn away from a sin. 

Why forgiveness?

Forgiveness means that you are promising not to use another’s past sins against them. There is no peace without it. It means that you are making a decision to live in the present, instead of the past.

Forgiveness protects your own heart. 

A couple can survive adultery, lies, hurtful words, arguments, money issues, sex problems, Etc. Etc.Etc. as long as there is repentance and forgiveness.

I am glad I realized this early on in my marriage and I hope others come to terms with this also.


Marriage requires a lot more than love- it requires patience, acceptance, forgiveness, kindness, encouragement, hope, trust, perseverance, Etc.

A marriage that is based on God is going to last no matter what. I think all marriages should have a foundation that is based on a rock…the rock- Jesus.


The Beatitudes: Jeremiah Study Bible (Matthew 5:3-10)


“Blessed are the poor in spirit,

For theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are those who mourn,
For they shall be comforted.

Blessed are the meek,
For they shall inherit the earth.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
For they shall be filled.

Blessed are the merciful,
For they shall obtain mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart,
For they shall see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers,
For they shall be called sons of God.

Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake,
For theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”

Happiness according to Jesus (Matthew 5:1-12 )

Matthew 5:3 – The poor in spirit

The humble. Those with destitute hearts sense their spiritual need and seek after God   (Ps. 34:18; 51:17). They have the advantage- and the great joy-of being able to cry out to God for help.

Matthew 5:4Those who mourn

The hurting. The one who weeps over the pains of life can be confident of God’s healing and comfort. The greek word translated comforted is also used to describe ministry of the Holy Spirit. In our sadness, the Holy Spirit will move us to joy.

Matthew 5:5- The Meek

The Harnessed. Meekness is not weakness but power under control. It implies a humble acceptance of one’s lowly position before God. By trusting in him, the meek will inherit the blessings of God’s fulfilled promises.

Matthew 5:6- Those who hunger and thirst for righteousness

The hungry. These people seek to justice and holiness, and most importantly, God in whose presence “is fullness of joy” (Ps. 16:11).

Matthew 5:7- The Merciful

The Helpers. For Christians, mercy is a Spirit-led ability to manifest practical, compassionate, and cheerful love toward those suffering. The merciful will obtain mercy and find true happiness in being merciful to others.

Matthew 5:8- The Pure in Heart

The Holy. These people have guileless motives, holy thoughts, and a clean conscience. In scripture, those who are most holy are also most joyful.

Matthew 5:9- The Peacemakers

The Healers. The word translated peacemakers comes from a verb meaning “to join together.” It pictures two opposing forces that are now being reconciled (5:44,45). Peacemakers experience joy and excitement as they help others reconcile with God and with one another.

Matthew 5:10- Those Who are Persecuted for Righteousness’ Sake

The harassed. Persecution is suffering wrongfully-being punished for being righteous. Although suffering is never fun, those who remain faithful through it are blessed to be identified with Christ.